ProperComm® wants to assist parents in learning to better communicate with their co-parent.

In an effort to facilitate appropriate communication between co-parents, ProperComm® developed a web based email and text message editing company. We edit text messages and emails between co-parents who are required to communicate but unable to do so appropriately.

ProperComm® eliminates the hostility, vulgarity, and removes anger from communication before it ever reaches its intended recipient; leaving the parents communicating without emotion and only about the children.

ProperComm® also eliminates passive aggressive language which often times the sender does not even realize is abusive.

Communication Tips for Parents. Staying Kid Focused

• Instead of making statements, which can be misinterpreted as demands, try framing as much as you can as a request.
• Ask his or her opinion
• Use nice words and kind behaviors. Be clear, calm and specific in your requests.
• Keep parenting issues separate from money issues
• Develop a written plan for conducting communication via telephone, fax, or e-mail.
• Move away from blaming and toward problem solving. Be honest, it’s not usually “all the other parent’s fault.”
• Be courteous and respectful even if you believe the other parent is undeserving.
• If you have trouble being courteous, imagine that the other parent is a close, friend and act toward your -spouse as you would toward a friend you really like. Impossible? Try it!
• Do not expect the other parent to read your mind or to meet your needs.
• Don’t expect praise or appreciation from the other parent.
• Keep the children out of the middle of conflict.

• Be careful to monitor your language.
• You should think of your relationship with the other parent as a business relationship.
• Be patient.
• Be a voice of reason, not of agitation.
• Watch your language.
• Be clear, calm and specific in your requests.
• Speak politely not negatively about the other parent.
• Learn how to separate your role as a former mate from that of a parent.
• All email or text communications should be appropriate and respectful.
• Emails and text messages should provide either relevant information for the other parent (FYI) or invite the other parent into a decision-making process.
• No disparaging comments and complaints about the other parent should be included in the communication.
• If the email or text message is to encourage decision-making, the parent should try to conclude the email or text with a question like “what do you think?” in order to encourage collaboration.